Do Blushers Have Something In Common With Anorexics?
I have never failed to be shocked when looking at pictures of anorexics. I just can't understand how some one could let their body deteriorate to that level. To my amazement, I learnt that when anorexics look in the mirror, they see then selves as fat. How could they possible see themselves as fat I would think?
Well, people who suffer from anorexia have an obsessive fear of being fat. This causes them to have a distorted body image. They simply do not see their bodies as they actually are. So when they say they are not thin, they aren't lying, they really do not believe they are thin.
So what does this have to do with excessive blushing? Well, I didn't actually realize it until recently, but the similarities are startling. Realization came when I finally opened up to my girlfriend about my past blushing problems.
I explained everything to her. What excessive blushing was, how badly I suffered from it and how much it negatively impacted my life. Her response blew me away. She said "How long before we started dating did you get over it?"
Everyone who has listened to my audio book, Blushing Free, knows that at the start of my relationship with my girlfriend my excessive blushing got worse then it ever had been before. My experience was that in every encounter with her I blushed frequently and intensely. Some times I blushed so intensely, in front of her, I had sweat dripping from my head.
I told her this and she honestly had no idea what I was talking about. I couldn't believe it. I honestly started to think she must be colour blind or crazy. I was 100% sure her response was going to be "Oh yeah, I was wondering what was going on there, with you blushing all the time."
The final penny dropped a week later. Something happened that was naturally embarrassing. Even none blushers would have blushed. I turned to my girlfriend and said "Oh, I'm going red." I then looked in the mirror and said "Look how red I go when I blush." She replied "Don't exaggerate, your only a little pink in the face."
To me I looked bright red; to her I was only a little pink in the face; barely blushing in her opinion. Now, I know it's hard to accept, but this is where our similarities with anorexics come in.
People who suffer from excessive blushing have an obsessive fear of blushing. This causes them to have a distorted body image. They simply do not see their blushing as it really is.
We always see our blushing as more intense then it really is. It simply is not as bad as we think it is. Now, I know you're not going to believe this. Trying to convince you of this is like trying to convince an anorexic that they are not fat.All I want you to do is start to toy with the idea that, your blushing is not as bad as you think and that other people don't care about it anywhere near as much as you. Do that and you will be a little closer to stopping blushing for good.
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